Are you worried about something today? “Worry” is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere. How can we stop worrying? Consider these steps:
1. We need to determine the root of our worry. I find if helpful to to write down my worry. Exactly, what is it am I worried will happen? What is the problem? Writing it down requires a little thought. I must first be mindful of the cause of worry.
2. I try to answer these questions: How likely is it that this problem will actually happen? How serious is the problem? How much control do I have over it happening or not? Are other people involved if my worry becomes a reality? Are they worried?
3. I try to formulate a realistic plan. What can I do about the problem? Do I have the necessary resources, skills and tools to address this problem?
4. Can I gather enough courage to admit I need help from another person who has been successful addressing the problem I find so daunting? Am I willing to listen to advise?
5. Does my plan require that other people act in accordance to my “rules”? Is my problem or worry also their priority?
And finally, sometimes the best thing we can do is to “let it go” and simply accept the flow of life with our best effort and then be at peace with the results.
When I take these steps, I usually learn there is either a smarter way to handle the problem, or there is nothing I can do about it.
The “Serenity Prayer” works for me:
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere. Get off the rocking chair and start moving in the right direction. Practice makes progress. Progress is good.