My simplified perspective on criticism is this:
If someone is criticizing me as an insult or to hurt me personally, then that person simply isn’t worth my spiritual energy.
If on the other hand someone is criticizing me sincerely and constructively, I want to look at their words and actions as help, and nothing more. I try to learn what they are teaching me with their criticism. Hopefully I will grow as a result.
If I’m being criticized without personal judgement, I feel thankful that someone is taking the time to teach me, even if they may not do it in the most diplomatic of ways. The way I react to the criticism will determine how I feel about myself and how I relate to other people.
But what about the people who seem to make criticism a lifestyle? In their cases, the criticism that they serve becomes a personal obstacle in their own life. Soon the world will learn to avoid them for fear of personal spiritual attack. More often than not, the habitual complainers don’t understand why others do not want to be around them, even as they continue to criticize almost everything that they see.
I don’t want to spend time with anyone who’s going to belittle me and all that I do, so I stay away from them as much as I can. I am attracted to positive, appreciative and welcoming people. I try to offer the same.
Following the link and pause:
“It only takes a minute.”