“Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.” This is a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt.
“Take my advice, I’m not using it.” This is an implied quote we hear from lots of people we meet, sometimes from me, and maybe even from you. I try very hard to be on guard for it every day.
Friendship with ourselves? What does that mean? It sounds so egocentric to want to be friends with ourselves? Shouldn’t we be focused on helping other people in times of struggle.
Try thinking of it like this, are you more able to help others when you’re sick in bed, so tired you’re unable stay focused, so hungry that your grumpy and grouchy or when you’re healthy and moving through your day with focused energy?
The answer is pretty obvious.
When we aren’t friends with ourselves, we certainly do not present a healthy role model for other people to follow, but sometimes these are the same people who so freely give out advice. Some of us feel compelled to tell other people what they should do, how they should take better care of themselves and how they should live, yet we ignore our own words of wisdom. It’s like we’re saying “take my advice, I’m not using it.”
Remember, first and foremost you must be a friend to yourself, be good to yourself, take card of yourself and keep yourself healthy. If you don’t do that, you’re simply sabotaging any possibility you have of helping others to be healthy and feel better about themselves.