There are lots of ways to numb the pain.
We are all experience a complex array of diverse emotions, however many of us are uncomfortable confronting our most powerful ones. We often “numb” ourselves to what we are truly feeling. It’s easier to suppress our emotions than to deal with them, so many of us choose to turn to coping pleasures such as alcohol, food, sugar, shopping, violence, isolation and television. All very effective “numbing” mechanisms.
While it’s normal to temporarily seek distractions as a means of coping with intense emotions, however “numbing yourself” prevents you from confronting your issues and keeps you from ever finding a resolution and then peace. When you are numb, yes there is less pain, but there is also no healing.
The activities that numb you may seem harmless or pleasurable, but they invariably diminish the quality of your life. Numbing yourself so that you don’t have to feel intense emotions will offer instant gratification but it blocks your awareness of a deeper need. You may find solace in food or exercise when what you really need is spiritual nourishment.
It is possible to find alternatives to your numbing behaviors.
When you sense that you are engaging in a particular behavior simply to deaden your emotions, stop and ask yourself why. Examine the feelings that you to choose to avoid . Maybe it’s anxiety, resentment, anger, frustration, powerlessness, loneliness, fear, depression the list can be a long one. The list is personal.
Do you know what triggers your desire to emotionally fade out? Are you at all interested in breaking dysfunctional patterns? Have you ever asked for help from people who have succeeded with a similar situation?
When we find the courage to confront and share our feelings with the trusted people in our lives, we are often surprised how quickly emotional healing progresses.
Self awareness is the first step to self improvement. Patience, yes, but there’s a fine line between patience and procrastination. Beware of crossing the line.
Practice makes progress. Progress is good.